Hi, my daughter is 14 and has recently tried Ecstasy, shrooms and pot. She was an "A/B" student and involved in music and dance. She is very creative and has been involved or tried almost every sport, creative art of every kind but doesn't have a specific interest in any.

Teachers gloat about her abilities and how good she is and she doesn't want to hear it. She doesn't want to stand out or be smart. She just wants to blend in. This blending in has led her to engage in drug activity. We have spent time with her and with teachers talking about the effects of these drugs especial "E" and meth.

I begged her after catching her with pot to stop and never try anything stronger and we showed and taught her what it would do. And she promised she wouldn't anymore. Unfortunately, the power of my love has little effect against the powers of her peers who in her words "they are the only people who really understand".

There are no words a parent can say to let a teenage know that we DO know what they are feeling and that we wish we could take the stress, anxiety and pain away but we can't so we try and teach them confidence, self esteem and ways to understand and see that they can make it through.

I know my daughter is experimenting and I'm terrified. She has tried ecstasy more than 6 times over a two month period and has no intention on saying it's bad stuff.

One of her peers even died recently from ecstasy. The kids response was "Oh my god I know her" and now it's back to life as usual for them. They even joke about being drug addicts and how they're burning brain cells. I, as the parent, have not slept and am constantly breaking out in tears with gutt wrenching anxiety attacks. I feeling for this parent that lost their daughter and know that it could have easily been my daughter.

When I first found out my daughter was using, I called organizations like NA and got passed along or I was offered the alanon for myself, I've been referred to government agencies for councelling and I have attended with their comments that I'm too controlling and need to back off and all I kept asking them was "how do I back off, when I care so much --- show me what to do and what my boundaries are as a parent today"

I was raised in a strict home and I can't be that way in this day in age as the teens seem to have too much control. They just run away if they don't like what you say or they get deeper into depression or rebel with bad friends and threaten to kill themselves. I don't want to sit and talk anymore with professionals. It's too late for that.

I want to pick my daughter up and move her into boarding school but I know that's too drastic and won't help her in the long run. I have spoken to other parents whose kids are involved in the same activity and all they come back saying is "Oh, my child says she would never do drugs" Are they nuts? I have written proof that their child is doing the same drugs as these kids take a thrill in writing down their "HIGH" experience. I guess it's easier to deny then to take action.

I want to remove her from these bad temptations she hangs with but they're all over town. Her dad thinks I'm being too hasty and should give it time. Well, with this drug we have no time and her friends are no friends in my eyes. She has been led down their path because of her big caring heart and they don't seem to care that she could die. They only care that what ever happens it happens to them all together.

I know I have raised her well and she is a smart kid and I must allow her to fall and pick herself up with my support. I have always given her choices and right now I need to foster those choices into better ones without taking over and that is very difficult as I want to protect her. I cannot force her to do anything.

I was so delighted when I stumbled over your site on the internet. It is exactly what I have been looking for, but I'm concerned that no government or private agency pointed me in your direction. I specifically asked if there is an on-line discussion group that people can turn to deal with these drugs.

I also asked if there were places to volunteer (both for me and my daughter) as I feel if she's involved on the other end she may get a different perspective. I asked who could help us and got nothing offered except counselling so I would have to ask, where are your funds going to if they are not reaching the community to let us even know you are here to help?

* I would love to contribute financially as long as it doesn't go in some administrational pot that never reaches the homes and streets.

* I'd like the funds to be used for undercover police officers to go into the schools posing as students to root out these pushers and suppliers of the drugs.

* I want officials to be present when events like Electronica fest come into town and supply a feast of these drugs to our children. (That is where at least 10 of these youth were started on ecstasy this year).

* I want to see drug testing kits available over the counter for parents. they're available on-line in the US why is Canada always one-step behind. Why should we have to go through a doctor for a simple urine test. Just seems like a money grab to me.

* I would like to see drug searches done (trained hounds would be best money spent) at the entrance of the schools. Put our funds towards stopping drugs before they can reach our kids and then we wouldn't have special needs kids in our school causing such trauma for educators. (but that's a whole other disappointing issue).

To-date we are trying to rebuild a calm household again. I am working on breathing and positive health as I realize that I am dealing with a drug person rather than my wonderful daughter. I know she will lie to me now to get what she wants and it will take a long time to heal ourselves. I only hope that she will live through this period in her life. I have purchased all of the recommended books and will read up and will try to get to an event.