I think my kid is using crystal meth. What can I do first?
The Vancouver Island Health Authority recommends that, if you suspect or discover your child intoxicated or in possession of alcohol or other drugs, take the following approaches. (This is an edited short segment of their full article.) Click here to read the complete VIHA article as a PDF file.
Stay calm. It may not be necessary to talk about your concerns right away (especially if safety is not an immediate issue). You will likely have more impact if you are calm, informed, and clear with what you want to achieve through your
conversation with your child. Deal with safety issues IMMEDIATELY.
Keep track of your observations and concerns. Reflect on things that have happened in the past that may have been connected with their use of alcohol/other drugs. Write all of these things down or, at least, commit them to memory.
Set a date with them to talk about something that is important to them and to you. Do not talk to them about what it is exactly you want to talk about -- simply let them know that you want a date with them and want them to commit at least ___
minutes/hours to your "date."
Decide if you want them to see an alcohol/other drug counsellor for an assessment -- to determine if their use of alcohol/other drugs is a problem or not.
Script your message; make a list of the points you want to cover. Note which points are crucial to discuss and which, if any, can wait until another conversation.
Follow through with consequences and repeat this entire process (or parts of it) if/when necessary.
Any/every time you are interrupted when you are speaking, remind your child that you will let them respond when you are finished. Try using the magic word, "NEVER-THE-LESS." It can be quite effective.
Get support for yourself and remain as health (physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially) as you can.
- Begin by expressing your love and concern for them.
- Restate family rules/expectations about alcohol/other drug use.
- State your observations of their behavior that indicates that they are using alcohol/other drugs and why you are worried about this behavior.
- Ask them to explain to you how they see alcohol/other drugs fitting into their lives (when they enjoy using, where they like to use, who they like to be with when they use, how long they plan to use, what effects the drink/drugs they are using are having on them, any concerns they or others have or have mentioned about their use).
- Give them time to respond. (If they continually interrupt you, let them know that you will stop every so often to let them respond, otherwise, they are to remain quiet and let you finish, first.).
- Return to your script. Restate your rules and expectations about the use of alcohol/other drugs.
- Apply consequences that they knew to expect (in a previous conversation(s) you established the consequences for using drugs, alcohol, and acting in inconsiderate, threatening or otherwise antisocial and negative behaviour.)
- Let them know what consequences you plan on implementing if their use of alcohol/other drugs continues.
- If you want them to see a counsellor for an assessment, tell them that you would like them to do this so that they, and you, know if their use of alcohol or other drugs is causing problems in their life. (This step helps them take responsibility for how their use is impacting others and provides a way for them to show you, their siblings, etc. that they are willing to look at their behavior.)
- Let them know that their behavior has affected your ability to trust them and that this is a serious blow to your relationship with them. Let them know that you would like to rebuild this trust and suggest a few ways that they might begin doing this. Make sure you let them know that trust takes a while to be rebuilt and that you are willing to work at this with them.
(Source: "Responding to Teenage Alcohol and Other Drug use: Suggestions for Parents;" Vancouver Island Health Authority brochure, 2005.)
My kid is using meth -- where do I turn for help?
Unfortunately, there is no simple answer to this question. What you need to know up front is that it is going to take months or longer of consistent effort on the part of you and your family to help your child stop using the drug. Some of
the professional support you should seek right away would be from your child’s educators (teacher, school principal, extracurricular trainers), medical doctor, counsellor, etc. These people will know important details about your
child and their behaviour, and they may be able to help you piece together a fuller picture of how your child became involved with the drug, who she’s hanging out with, how his behaviour has changed from their perspective, how
she’s getting money to buy the drug, what other drugs he may be using, etc.
If your child has stopped attending school and is hanging out with kids downtown, you should contact the police to get their advice on how to intervene or how they may be able to help you do so. You should also speak with community youth
outreach workers, such as those who work with the YM-YWCA or the Alliance Club in downtown Victoria, or similar resources in your community. Build an on-going relationship with these people. To find contact info in our resource
database, Click the 'Resources' link or button.
We recommend that you also seek help for yourself through a parent support group (such as Parents Together) or your church minister or doctor. Dealing with a meth-involved child is very challenging and can affect every aspect of your life,
putting a strain on other relationships, your ability to focus at work and to care for other children. It is very important that you have support through this difficult time.
We also recommend that you participate in this website on an on-going basis. Information is added regularly including further community resources and other websites of interest. Through this site you can connect with other parents and
families dealing with the same issues and dialogue with them through the forums.
We encourage you not to give up hope.
What about detox?
Prior to detox the chief symptomatic complaints include fatigue, irritability, depression, intolerance of stress, reduced attention span, short-term memory loss and decreased mental acuity. These same symptoms are dominant in those who had
ceased active drug abuse over a year prior to treatment. Following treatment, both past and current users reported marked improvements in symptoms with most returning to normal range.
It is important that after detox the client be supported in either a residential program or brought back to health by caring family or friends. The rate of re-use is extremely high with jib. DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOUR KIDS. They need to
know you care. The detoxification process represents a vital step in drug rehabilitation: an approach aimed at a long term reduction of the predisposition for drug abuse.